I see it that way also because if anyone can go into a person's heart uninvited and change that heart 180 degrees from what it was without the consent or knowledge of the person, even though the person was unaware of it, that is a form of force. If I understand it correctly reformed theology teaches that a person is born with a will that is against God. That would mean that God changes the will to be for him going against that person's will. That is force as far as I can see.
The problem I see with TULIP is that it was pioneering a way out from the tyrannical oppressive inane thinking of the Catholic church which
had become corrupted over time.
What the TULIP formula presents is a person that God can not save. For if the soul (not the flesh) is totally depraved?
There would be nothing to save....
Its the soul, not the flesh, that God saves.
Prior to the application of "enabling" grace, a person's flesh dominated and controlled the thinking of the soul.
The soul being unable to over ride the impulses of the flesh does not mean its any more depraved than a weak
person being a slave under the whip is depraved. For the powerless soul has no idea it can have a choice.
When God administers grace during His drawing of a person that person's soul is being momentarily freed from
the oppression of the flesh, and the privacy of that soul's own thinking, will make a choice it it wishes were true.
Grace breaks up the power of the flesh long enough, so that an otherwise powerless soul is able to make a choice.
That is why we must be saved by grace.
The concept of irresistible grace trains the believer to have self hatred and to see oneself as a drone to be controlled
by God to do His sovereign will..... No freedom. Only Sovereignty ruling as a benevolent dictator.
“Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty” (2 Corinthians 3:17)
Liberty, because Grace shuts down the power of the depraved flesh.. allowing the soul to choose for truth, so the Holy Spirit
can then take over, and enable that soul to walk in truth.
Its simple. And, does not require harmful self hatred to do God's will.
grace and peace ..................