Yes, I heard, I believed, God picked me up, made me spiritually alive, gave me eternal life and made me a part of His Kingdom.
Are you trying to make a point here? If you are going to contend the inability of man to hear and believe I will agree with you wholeheartedly if it is on the basis there is no ministry of the Spirit by means of grace. However, God is faithful and doesn't wait for us to do the impossible but enables us to hear and frees our soul from the influence of the flesh so that we can make our own choices from our own souls.
Why do some choose life and others choose death? No idea other than to say it is what each wants. But why some want darkness is something you and I will never relate to and therefore simply is beyond our understanding just as the opposite is also true.