Not getting in the middle between you but I want clarity from your beliefs, so I can follow along better. Are we to understand that you feel that all non-Christian / unsaved people (leave the Jews out of this for a minute)should be suffering for an eternity in some manner? That to perish or cease to exist is too good for them?
Won't you allow for some exception for people like Mother Teresa who, while at times did not even believe in God, faithfully fulfilled what she thought she ought to be doing with her life in help and service to a lost people? Yet without a true Christian belief?.