Eleanor:
In reply to my statement, "Additionally, '...God commands all people everywhere to repent' (Acts 17:30). Can a man be spiritually born without repenting or reforming his life? If not, then we most certainly do have something to do prior to being born again. Our God does not force or compel anyone to be born again."—Buff.
You replied, in Post #125, "Indeed, he does, and only some do so, and for the same reason that only some are born again, the sovereign act of the Holy Spirit. The others do not want to and will not do so. God owes grace to no one, it is unmerited. That he gives it only to some is by his will and free choice to do so, and no one can say to him, 'What are you doing?' " (Da 1:21, 4:17, 35).
You also wrote, "Actually, if you have saving faith, you were already born again before you believed, born by sovereign act of the Holy Spirit depending on nothing but his sovereign choice, as unaccountable as the wind (Jn 3:3-8), as in God's choice of Jacob (Ro 9:10-12).
In light of the scriptures, Eleanor, this is so puzzling that the most brillient scholar in the world would have a problem trying to intrepret what you and the average Calvinist teaches. No offence, but your statements above boils down to nonsense. It is as gibberish and as confusing as were the languages of the "Tower of Babel." I think it is proper to label Calvinism's agenda, "Doctrinal Shenanigans." And this brings me to what I affirmed initially relative to Calvinism.
I understand your conundrum, as do all "Calvinists."
Keeping in mind that our ways are not God's ways, and
his thoughts are
not our thoughts,
In fact, his ways are
higher than our ways, and his thoughts are
higher than our thoughts (Isa 55:8-9). To wit:
The NT reveals that, even though man's will is not free (Jn 8:34) and, therefore, he is
unable to obey God (Ro 8:7), man
is responsible for sin (Ro 39b, 14:12). So your question is how can that be?
How can man be responsible for sin if he is unable to obey God?
An analogy is helpful here.
Suppose an invalid borrowed money from you on the promise that he would repay you from his inheritance at his father's death. The invalid has contracted a just debt, which he is responsible to pay. But suppose when the invalid comes into his inheritance, a con artist cons him out of the whole inheritance before his debt is paid, and the con artist is nowhere to be found. The invalid is still responsible for his just debt, although he is unable to pay.
The principle here is that responsibility to pay is not based on ability to pay, but on what is justly owed.
The same is true spiritually. Responsibility to obey God is not based on man's ability to obey God, but on what man justly owes God. God is the center of the universe, not man (Rev 4:11). God is the potter who owns everything he has created (Ex 19:5, Dt 10:14, Job 41:11, Ps 24:1, 50:12, Eze 18:4), including man (Isa 45:9, Jer 18:6). He has a right to obedience from man (Lk 17:10) and, therefore, obedience is justly owed to him. Man's impotency does not release him from that just debt, because man's responsibility does not issue from his ability to pay, but from what he justly owes.
Now, while justice requires the invalid to pay his debt to you, justice will not be served in your case, because the invalid is unable to pay. However, with God, justice is always done. If we do not pay our debt (through Jesus Christ), we will be thrown into debtors' prison, even though we are powerless to pay it.
Justice will be exacted of us to the last penny (Mt 5:26, 18:34) by God who is our adversary (Ro 5:10), with whom we are
warned to settle our accounts before they come into his court of judgment (Mt 5:25).
So man is responsible for his sin (Mt 12:36), even though
he is unable to obey God (Ro 8:7); and no conflict exists in justice between the responsibility of man and the impotency of man to obey God.
Now that being the case,
God therefore enables some, the elect (Mk 13:20, 27, Ro 8:33, 1Th 1:4, 1 Pe 1:2, 2 Pe 1:10) by his sovereign will and choice, as unaccountable as the wind (Jn 3:3-8),
but not all, to obey him.
That is the testimony of the NT with which you must reckon (and which "Calvinists" have).
And
that is the light in which the following are understood:
"Indeed, he does (command all to repent), and only some do so, and for the same reason that only some are born again, the sovereign act of the Holy Spirit. The others do not want to and will not do so. God owes grace to no one, it is unmerited. That he gives it only to some is by his will and free choice to do so, and no one can say to him, 'What are you doing?' " (Da 1:21, 4:17, 35).
"Actually, if you have saving faith, you were already born again before you believed, born by sovereign act of the Holy Spirit, depending on nothing but his sovereign choice, as unaccountable as the wind (Jn 3:3-8), as in God's choice of Jacob (Ro 9:10-12).