Part 3: Paul is asking them to pray for his kinsman....
God has called those kinsmen for centuries and found....
Romans 10:21 KJV
But to Israel he saith, "All day long I have stretched forth my hands unto a disobedient and gainsaying people."
For centuries God has held out his hand to Paul's kinsman but they are a disobedient and obstinate people. Paul knows. He had to get knocked off his donkey, struck blind, healed, and then filled with the Holy Spirit before he confessed Christ. Paul did not know it was going to happen. He did not know beforehand he'd been chosen. He didn't know he'd been called beforehand. He wasn't given a choice when God chose him, he wasn't given a choice when God called him, and he was not given a choice when God commanded him. Paul's own precedent defies the interpretation you have given to Romans 10:9.
Acts 9:15-19
But the Lord said to him, "Go, for he is a chosen instrument of Mine, to bear My name before the Gentiles and kings and the sons of Israel; for I will show him how much he must suffer for My name's sake." So Ananias departed and entered the house, and after laying his hands on him said, "Brother Saul, the Lord Jesus, who appeared to you on the road by which you were coming, has sent me so that you may regain your sight and be filled with the Holy Spirit." And immediately there fell from his eyes something like scales, and he regained his sight, and he got up and was baptized; and he took food and was strengthened.
Paul had been prepared his entire life to serve God's purpose. He was a chosen instrument of God's and he didn't even know it. Regeneration preceded faith and God's mercy did not depend on how Paul worked or how he willed. It depended on God's will and God's purpose.
Paul was not telling the saints in Rome anything different than what he himself had experienced.
Paul's Romans 9-11 narrative started out expressing his sadness noting not all Israel is Israel, and the narrative continues past chapter 10 where Paul states not all who are descended from Abraham are Abraham's descendants. He appeals to the prophets throughout this narrative to highlight the prophetic force bearing down on Israel's entire history, and despite stating all Israel will be saved he concludes,
Romans 11:7
What then? What Israel is seeking, it has not obtained, but those who were chosen obtained it, and the rest were hardened.
So when we look at the text of Romans 9-11 and then the text of Romans as a whole, we find the sinful volitional agency interpretation fails repeatedly.
Romans 9:16
So then it does not depend on the man who wills or the man who runs, but on God who has mercy.
Note Paul has also stated "
not all who are descended from Israel are Israel." Paul then gives another example, that of Pharoah, AND Paul also provides another reason for God's will and purpose: it isn't always salvation; sometimes it is God simply showing His power. In the case of Pharoah it was God's power over the strongest earthly rule and the destruction of its ruler.
It would not have mattered how much Esau confessed Christ. God hated him. It's an assumption Esau had the ability to confess Christ, but that's too confrontational to our sensibilities. Certainly, everyone has that capability. Not according to Romans. The power of God has been evident in creation since creation's inception. Sin has reigned since before the law was given. The mind of flesh is hostile to God and it does not and CANNOT please God. God has mercy on whom He has mercy and if Esau and Jacob are the precedent then His will and purpose were decided before you and I were born. The clay cannot protest to the Potter.
Paul is sad for his kinsman. He'd willingly be cursed if it would bring them to salvation (implying he knows not even that would work). With the opening of chapter 10 Paul asks the saints in Rome to pray for his kinsman. They do not know God's righteousness; they seek their own righteousness (see Lk. 18:9-14; Rom. 2:8; Phil. 3:8-9). Paul appeals to the Mosaic Law to show its witness to faith explaining that it is with the heart (not the mind) that one believes. Israel had a heart of stone. They needed a circumcised heart, a heart of flesh and only God can circumcise the heart and replace the heart of stone with one of flesh (Eze. 36:26).
Colossians 2:9-12
For in Him all the fullness of Deity dwells in bodily form, and in Him you have been made complete, and He is the head over all rule and authority; and in Him you were also circumcised with a circumcision made without hands, in the removal of the body of the flesh by the circumcision of Christ; having been buried with Him in baptism, in which you were also raised up with Him through faith in the working of God, who raised Him from the dead.
That circumcision is not by hands; it occurs in the removal of the flesh, not from the confession of the sinful flesh's mouth! In his epistle to the Romans Paul was writing to a group of people who had already had their body of flesh removed by Christ. They were saints, the called of Christ. Paul is asking them to pray for his kinsman who live by the law with a heart of stone in need of a circumcision only God can provide, one that does not come from the Law-abiding, stone-hearted confession of sinful, unregenerate flesh.
Romans 10:21 KJV
But to Israel he saith, "All day long I have stretched forth my hands unto a disobedient and gainsaying people."
For centuries God has held out his hand to Paul's kinsman but they are a disobedient and obstinate people. Paul knows. He had to get knocked off his donkey, struck blind, healed, and then filled with the Holy Spirit before he confessed Christ. Paul did not know it was going to happen. He did not know beforehand he'd been chosen. He didn't know he'd been called beforehand. He wasn't given a choice when God chose him, he wasn't given a choice when God called him, and he was not given a choice when God commanded him. Paul's own precedent defies the interpretation you have given to Romans 10:9.
Acts 9:15-19
But the Lord said to him, "Go, for he is a chosen instrument of Mine, to bear My name before the Gentiles and kings and the sons of Israel; for I will show him how much he must suffer for My name's sake." So Ananias departed and entered the house, and after laying his hands on him said, "Brother Saul, the Lord Jesus, who appeared to you on the road by which you were coming, has sent me so that you may regain your sight and be filled with the Holy Spirit." And immediately there fell from his eyes something like scales, and he regained his sight, and he got up and was baptized; and he took food and was strengthened.
Paul had been prepared his entire life to serve God's purpose. He was a chosen instrument of God's and he didn't even know it. Regeneration preceded faith and God's mercy did not depend on how Paul worked or how he willed. It depended on God's will and God's purpose.
Paul was not telling the saints in Rome anything different than what he himself had experienced.
Paul's Romans 9-11 narrative started out expressing his sadness noting not all Israel is Israel, and the narrative continues past chapter 10 where Paul states not all who are descended from Abraham are Abraham's descendants. He appeals to the prophets throughout this narrative to highlight the prophetic force bearing down on Israel's entire history, and despite stating all Israel will be saved he concludes,
Romans 11:7
What then? What Israel is seeking, it has not obtained, but those who were chosen obtained it, and the rest were hardened.
So when we look at the text of Romans 9-11 and then the text of Romans as a whole, we find the sinful volitional agency interpretation fails repeatedly.
There is nothing there stating God depends on the sinful flesh, or that the confession of still-sinful still-unregenerate body of flesh is salvific. There is, alternative, a plethora of information actively precluding such a reading.
Do not proof-text the verse.