I figured this will be a tough question for Arminians.
Mainly because there is no example in scripture.
Even when Jesus called his disciples, he went to them. He also never asked them, he simply called them.
Maybe someone can point out a verse I may have missed? For example, Matthew?
Matthew 9:9,
As Jesus passed on from there, he saw a man called Matthew sitting at the tax booth, and he said to him, “Follow me.” And he rose and followed him.
Did Jesus ask Matthew? Did Jesus try and use a little prevenient grace? Did he send his other disciples to talk him into following him?
Or, how about Philip and Nathaniel?
John 1:43-51
The next day Jesus decided to go to Galilee. He found Philip and said to him, “Follow me.” Now Philip was from Bethsaida, the city of Andrew and Peter. Philip found Nathanael and said to him, “We have found him of whom Moses in the Law and also the prophets wrote, Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” Nathanael said to him, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?” Philip said to him, “Come and see.” Jesus saw Nathanael coming toward him and said of him, “Behold, an Israelite indeed, in whom there is no deceit!” Nathanael said to him, “How do you know me?” Jesus answered him, “Before Philip called you, when you were under the fig tree, I saw you.” Nathanael answered him, “Rabbi, you are the Son of God! You are the King of Israel!” Jesus answered him, “Because I said to you, ‘I saw you under the fig tree,’ do you believe? You will see greater things than these.” And he said to him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, you will see heaven opened, and the angels of God ascending and descending on the Son of Man.”
This passage is filled with tons of treasure, do you Arminians see any? Hint: It is very Calvinistic!