Ok I'll put on my reformed hat and post about John 3.
John 3:3-10
3 Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again.”
4 “How can someone be born when they are old?” Nicodemus asked. “Surely they cannot enter a second time into their mother’s womb to be born!”
5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit. 6 Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit. 7 You should not be surprised at my saying, ‘You must be born again.’ 8 The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.”
9 “How can this be?” Nicodemus asked.
10 “You are Israel’s teacher,” said Jesus, “and do you not understand these things?
So lets go through this point by point.
1- to enter the kingdom of God a person must be born again( a 2nd time)
2- flesh gives birth to flesh ( 1st birth )
3- the Spirit gives birth to spirit( 2nd birth )
4- the wind(spirit) blows wherever IT pleases
5- we hear the sound of the wind but do not know where it is coming from or going to
6- the same with the Spirit( we see its effects but not its coming or going)
7- the spirit is the same as the wind- it does as it pleases and we see its effects in both the natural(wind) and supernatural ( spirit)
8- nowhere in this passage does it say that a man chooses to be born again
9- the new birth is compared to the physical birth just as the wind is compared to the spirits work
10- in both cases of birth God is the Active One and the one who is birthed is passive in the process.
conclusion: just as flesh gives birth to flesh( 1st birth as a person) so to does the Spirit give birth to the spirit(the new birth- born again)
There can be no other reading into the text but what has been outlined in the 10 points. Those 10 points are directly from the text.
Now The PARALLELS and CONTRASTS Jesus makes in the passage are the following 10 by reading through and observing the passage :
1- the 2 births
2- the wind and the spirit
3- flesh and the spirit
4- water and spirit
5- earthly and heavenly things
6- effects of both the wind and spirit
7- the seen with the unseen
8- the physical with the supernatural
9- knowing and not knowing, understanding and not understanding
10- entering the kingdom and not entering the kingdom
Just as a man is passive in his physical birth so to is that same man when it comes to his spiritual birth. See below for the Truth in the birth process its all Gods doing, not mans.
John 1:13
children born not of blood, nor of the desire or will of man, but born of God.
John 3:5
Jesus answered, "Truly, truly, I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless he is born of water and the Spirit.
John 3:4
"How can a man be born when he is old?" Nicodemus asked. "Can he enter his mother's womb a second time to be born?"
John 3:6
Flesh is born of flesh, but spirit is born of the Spirit.
Titus 3:5
He saved us, not by the righteous deeds we had done, but according to His mercy, through the washing of new birth and renewal by the Holy Spirit.
James 1:18
He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we would be a kind of firstfruits of His creation.
1 Peter 1:23
For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God.
A dead person has no stimulus with his body the same as one spiritually dead in their sins has no stimulus to life is the spirit. Both conditions of death are dead to stimuli. There is inability of the dead to react to stimuli/stimulus. A physically dead man cannot respond and neither can a spiritually dead man respond to stimuli from the spirit since they are dead spiritually.
Ephesians 2:1
And you were dead in your trespasses and sins,
Ephesians 2:5
made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in our trespasses. It is by grace you have been saved!
Colossians 2:13
When you were dead in your trespasses and in the uncircumcision of your sinful nature, God made you alive with Christ. He forgave us all our trespasses
John 5:21
For as the Father raiseth up the dead, and quickeneth
them; even so the Son quickeneth whom he will.
Hence the necessity of a resurrection of the dead - life given by God in both cases. Both the physical and spiritual dead need new life and that life can only come from God.
Just as Lazarus could not come out of that grave until Jesus supernaturally gave him life and called him out of that grave neither can those dead in sin respond until they are given life (regeneration) to respond to Gods call.
physical death- cannot respond to stimuli such as seeing and hearing
spiritual death- cannot respond to stimuli such as seeing and hearing.
Lazarus who was physically dead could not see or hear until Jesus gave him life to respond to his call from the grave.
It’s really not that complicated. Dead is dead. Resurrection is resurrection, Regeneration is regeneration, born of the Spirit is born of the spirit.
It’s all Gods control over life and death.
hope this helps !!!