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Forgiveness is one of the hardest things for a Christian to do and also one of the hardest things to understand as to what forgiveness is---what it looks like in our thoughts as well as our actions. There are so many things done to people by people where forgiving seems impossible because it is seen by us as saying that the person is released from all consequences for their actions. That we were not genuinely wounded, even marked and scarred by what was done to us. It feels like they get off scot free while we suffer the hurt. Or that in forgiving them, we should no longer have those feelings of emotional or physical pain.
There arises in us a natural need for retribution or revenge. To make the other person pay in some way. And even though we say we forgive because the Bible tells us we must, and we do not understand forgiveness, therefore our "get even" may not be overt, yet continues covertly, or in our desires. It may go unrecognized by the person doing it, and be invisible to everyone but the one on the receiving end of this covert retribution of exacting payment.
I believe there is a profound understanding of what forgiveness is in the wording of the Lord's Prayer where Jesus says, "Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors." I see this as a direct reference to the OT laws concerning the forgiveness of debts.
Deut 15:1-2 At the end of every seven years you shall grant a release. And this is the manner of the release: every creditor shall release what he has lent to his neighbor. He shall not exact it of his neighbor, his brother, because the Lord's release has been proclaimed.
Deut 15: 12-13 If your brother, a Hebrew man or a Hebrew woman is sold to you, he shall serve you six years, and in the seventh year you shall let him go free from you. And when you let him go free from you, you shall not let him go empty-handed.
Deut 15:18 It shall not seem hard to you when you let him go free from you, for at half the cost of a hired worker he has served you six years. So the Lord your God will bless you in all that you do.
So forgiving a debt as is mentioned in the Lord's Prayer is, not just saying, but believing and acting/thinking accordingly, that the person who wronged you does not owe you anything. Retribution and vengeance is left with God where it belongs. We are instructed to not repay evil for evil and to love our enemies and our neighbors. Loving our enemies and neighbor is not a matter of feelings. It is not withholding good from them if we see them in need---as in the parable of the good Samaritan.
Saying someone does not owe us anything when put into action includes not subteley exacting payment from them forever by withholding themselves or their approval by showing partiality and unfairness from a position of authority. And certainly this would apply if one has not actually been wronged but merely hurt someone's feelings by say, correcting them when they were obviously in the wrong. It is to judge unjustly.
When it comes to the bigger, actual wrongs that inevitably mark us, but do not or should not destroy us as we have an advocate in Christ, coming to a place where we rest in the Just Judge, and arrive with His aid, the Shepherd who leads us in paths of righteousness, to where we truly forgive the debt, leaving the person in God's hand; this is forgiveness. It is something for us, not the other person. Also it is not always instant, and it is not always a one time thing but may need to be sometimes revisited as we find our minds return to the wrong and the pain of it. We need to learn to make the distinction between feelings and our heart and when the feelings overwhelm us to hide ourselves in Him, and let our desire to please Him be our deepest cry, and wait upon Him for He will again strengthen our heart.
And above all, remember the magnitude of the debt we owe God, and Jesus who came and paid that debt for us, that He might bestow grace and mercy, forgiveness, upon us. We are to show mercy because we have been shown such unimaginable mercy. We are to forgive our debtors even as He has forgiven our debt.
There arises in us a natural need for retribution or revenge. To make the other person pay in some way. And even though we say we forgive because the Bible tells us we must, and we do not understand forgiveness, therefore our "get even" may not be overt, yet continues covertly, or in our desires. It may go unrecognized by the person doing it, and be invisible to everyone but the one on the receiving end of this covert retribution of exacting payment.
I believe there is a profound understanding of what forgiveness is in the wording of the Lord's Prayer where Jesus says, "Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors." I see this as a direct reference to the OT laws concerning the forgiveness of debts.
Deut 15:1-2 At the end of every seven years you shall grant a release. And this is the manner of the release: every creditor shall release what he has lent to his neighbor. He shall not exact it of his neighbor, his brother, because the Lord's release has been proclaimed.
Deut 15: 12-13 If your brother, a Hebrew man or a Hebrew woman is sold to you, he shall serve you six years, and in the seventh year you shall let him go free from you. And when you let him go free from you, you shall not let him go empty-handed.
Deut 15:18 It shall not seem hard to you when you let him go free from you, for at half the cost of a hired worker he has served you six years. So the Lord your God will bless you in all that you do.
So forgiving a debt as is mentioned in the Lord's Prayer is, not just saying, but believing and acting/thinking accordingly, that the person who wronged you does not owe you anything. Retribution and vengeance is left with God where it belongs. We are instructed to not repay evil for evil and to love our enemies and our neighbors. Loving our enemies and neighbor is not a matter of feelings. It is not withholding good from them if we see them in need---as in the parable of the good Samaritan.
Saying someone does not owe us anything when put into action includes not subteley exacting payment from them forever by withholding themselves or their approval by showing partiality and unfairness from a position of authority. And certainly this would apply if one has not actually been wronged but merely hurt someone's feelings by say, correcting them when they were obviously in the wrong. It is to judge unjustly.
When it comes to the bigger, actual wrongs that inevitably mark us, but do not or should not destroy us as we have an advocate in Christ, coming to a place where we rest in the Just Judge, and arrive with His aid, the Shepherd who leads us in paths of righteousness, to where we truly forgive the debt, leaving the person in God's hand; this is forgiveness. It is something for us, not the other person. Also it is not always instant, and it is not always a one time thing but may need to be sometimes revisited as we find our minds return to the wrong and the pain of it. We need to learn to make the distinction between feelings and our heart and when the feelings overwhelm us to hide ourselves in Him, and let our desire to please Him be our deepest cry, and wait upon Him for He will again strengthen our heart.
And above all, remember the magnitude of the debt we owe God, and Jesus who came and paid that debt for us, that He might bestow grace and mercy, forgiveness, upon us. We are to show mercy because we have been shown such unimaginable mercy. We are to forgive our debtors even as He has forgiven our debt.