I believe your umbrage is not completely unfounded since my delivery is imperfect, even if in good faith. I apologize for undue offense, I'm certainly one of God's most unpolished stones. That said, as I've said, Calvinism tests the boundaries of my patience. My desire is to conduct myself with the same civility as I would with say, Mormonism or JW, or RCs. RCs being the closest analogy, in that it's considered by mainstream to not be "heresy" or "anathema", and so, the 'goal' is to find reconciliation.. not absolute irreconcilable division. Of course, we know well it's irreconcilable.. yet, Church Inc. is willing to feign, which.. I cannot see as other than a lie. Similarly, like RC, Calvinism claims the 'same Gospel'.. presenting that doctrinal reconciliation is somehow possible.. however, this narrow definition of what amounts to 'heresy' is arguably lacking, in that even a proper definition of the Gospel, which has an improper doctrine of Atonement.. is no Gospel at all, and therefore 'another gospel'. A real Gospel, presented as "unavailable" to "certain people" is NOT the Gospel. It's a stumbling block, and an enemy to the Gospel. A more insidious wolf than any flagrantly "definitionally false gospel". So yes, it's a dire struggle for me to be 'civil' in the face of such a destructive set of doctrines. But, I don't make the rules.. and so, try my best to do to others as I would have done to me.. and that demands the assumption of good faith, patience and the understanding you feel hasn't been given. So yes, I always try to be better, and do better. Point taken.