That answers the second question asked.
Relationship boundaries have two functions: 1) they define what is right and what is wrong, and 2) they define who a person is and is not. I am not you and you am not me. That sentence is an example of the second function. A "boundary" is simply some sort of defined limit, like the fence around a piece of property or the fact a human cannot jump from a height and expect to defy gravity unaided.
I asked the first question first because the
application of grace is limited. God is infinite and to the degree grace is an attribute of God, grace is also infinite. Grace being infinite does not mean it has limitless application. For example, God's grace has been applied to every human being in that they breath air and pump blood enough to live one life in spite of sin. God could have eradicated the entirety of human existence the minute Adam disobeyed Him in the garden. By grace he did not. God could have also, instead, wiped Adam and Eve clean from sin the very same moment as an alternative to eradication. That would have been an act of, and application of grace. Because God permitted humans to continue being born and those surviving birth to continue living a life until their inevitable physical death dead in sin - at which time they all face judgment - that grace allowing sinners to live one lifetime is limited. At the end of that lifetime, judgment is faced in a state of condemnation and destruction is the consequence........ unless God has also added
another application of grace to the sinner. We call that application of grace that avoids the wrathful consequences of condemnation
salvation.
In between birth and death there are a variety of other applications. One example would be graciously permitting poseurs, people who claim to be saved but, in fact, are not saved. Some of them are consciously lying powers and some of them are deluded poseurs (I think they are conscious of their delusion but for the sake of this op I'll allow some diversity thereof). God also allows a variety of maturity among those genuinely saved. People claiming to follow Cephas, Apollos, Jesus or Paul are divided and probably to some degree being divisive (is not the claim to follow one but not another implicitly competitive?), yet all are treated as authentic converts to Christ and not poseurs. Their authenticity is not question despite the fact disputatious, dissenting, factious people (
Gal. 5:20) should not expect to inherit God's kingdom. The Galatians 5 passage pertaining to the works of the flesh is another example of the limits of God's grace.
Galatians 5 provides examples positive applications of grace and the limitations of grace worded as negatives
within the state of grace known as salvation. A person who is not save could be loving, joyous, at peace, patient, etc. bout those iterations would not be fruit of God's Spirit. They would be fruit of flesh and although those conditions are not listed in the works of flesh in verses 19-21, they would, nonetheless still be works of flesh. This is one dividing line between antinomianism and grace. The exact same behavior could be manifested by the flesh or manifested by the Spirit but only that which is worked by the Spirit is grace.
One potential problem with the op's inquiry is that "antinomianism" literally means "
no law" or "
against law," and the simple fact is no human ever lives an absolutely lawless existence. No one on earth can jump of a tall building and avoid the law of gravity. No one can murder a person and avoid the consequence of that sin. No one can murder a person, and then another, and another and more and more and not suffer the consequences prescribed by God when He designed and the created creation. It is quite possible Jeff Dahmer was the happiest man who has ever lived...... for very brief moments of time. He gave in to his impulses. He fed his lusts. He felt the joy of sin for a season, and in so doing learned that sort of joy is exceedingly brief and the resulting dissatisfaction is worse than the previous version. There isn't an addict alive who does not know lust is never satisfied but we look like freshmen compared to Dahmer. He could not live absent any and all law. Creation is itself a construction of laws, and laws of many varieties (physical, moral, relational, existential, etc.).
I am me and you am not me. I do not have to think the way you think, feel the way you feel, choose the way you choose, or act the way you act, and the exact same facts apply to you in reverse Neither one of us
has to think, feel, choose, or act what God thinks, feels, chooses, or acts but every departure has consequences. Antinomianism is, therefore, best understood as a spectrum, rather than a fixed point or line where on one side law exists and on the other side law does not exist. There is no place where law does not exist. This informs the theological position Christians are no longer bound by the Law of Moses, or the even more generalized notion we are no longer bound by any moral law. The Law of Moses was simply a specific kind of elaboration of 1) God's character, 2) a witness or testimony of the coming Messiah, and 3) sin. Because of the
law of non-contradiction, scripture never contradicts itself. It is all a revelation of God by God about God, and the Law Maker did not stop being a Law Maker just because He saved a bunch of folks from sin.
The measure of our lawfulness simply changed, not God.
God could line us all up next to one another on judgment day and measure every single one of us by the Law of Moses. We'd all fail, and God would nonetheless grant us entrance into His kingdom because we're all covered with blood of Christ. The problem is we get measured by a much higher standard. We think we're blessed to no longer be measured by Sinai, but Calvary is a much more egregious, much more merciless measure. When God lines us all up before His throne and measures us against His resurrected Son we all still fail. It is by grace we are saved so, being covered in the blood of Christ a lot of law-breaking people get allowed into the kingdom. Poseurs act like they're covered in blood but they're not.
No one can live an unchanged life and also live within God's grace.
Never.
A boundaryless existence does not exist.
Christians - real Christians, actual Christians, genuine Christians, authentic Christians - have been
bought. No Christians is his own. Christians argue a lot of false dichotomies discussing theology but one of the real, truth, blunt, radically inescapable true dichotomies scripture asserts from beginning to end is there is only slavery, never autonomy, and a person is either a slave of sin or a slave of God's. Greater truths within that dichotomy are that...
- The slave of sin is a minion who imagines himself free when he is nothing more than an animated corpse plodding through what he wrongly imagines is a life on his way to lawful destruction. Every moment of his existence serves only the will and purpose of God as a piece of refuse whose duration on earth is prescribed without his knowledge.
- The slave of God is, alternative a servant empowered with the power and authority of his Master, and due to the nature of the purchase was, by grace, permitted and endowed with adoption so as to become a son (or daughter).
That is the law. No one escapes that nomiam.
The trouble is telling who is what from outside the throne is difficult, if not impossible, and any attempt to move God over to create space sufficient enough for any of us to sit there is against the law

, an antinomian effort that fails

(and might get a person killed).